Sex with my aunt is amazing and I know it is wrong - but will our family accept us?

DEAR DEIDRE: I KNOW it is wrong but I am having sex with my aunt. From the very first time, it felt amazing – and now we are in a secret relationship.

I’m 24 and she’s 25. There are twenty years between her and my mum, so I’ve never seen her as part of the older generation.

We always got on and I’d look forward to seeing her at family gatherings.

I secretly fancied her but put it out of my mind.

After college she moved to our city for work and we’d sometimes meet with friends.

I didn’t much take to her boyfriend though, who seemed to treat her like a possession.

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One night while we were out he really upset her and stormed off in a huff.

He’d got annoyed that she wasn’t giving him more of her attention.

 Walking her home that night felt somehow different and when I got to her door, our hug turned into intense kissing.

We’d both had a bit to drink and so when she invited me in, I didn’t hesitate. We ended up stumbling into her lounge and having the most intense sex.

We’ve started seeing each other in secret now and it’s not just about the sex.

 We have genuine feelings for each other.

She has finished with her boyfriend and we spend most weekends either holed up at hers or going for long walks in the hills.

I’ve never been so happy and miserable in equal measure because I’m completely smitten with her but I know we are playing with fire.

We fantasise about moving to a different city together where no one would know our true relationship, but that’s not really realistic, is it?

What can we do? I know our family would never accept us and I can’t even bring myself to imagine my mum’s reaction.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Please stop now and think this through. You are breaking the law.

 If you continue with your secret it is only a matter of time before you get discovered, which would lead to serious trouble.

Not only that but you are risking a pregnancy which would cause immense heartache to you and your aunt.

I realise you love your aunt but this isn’t helping her – or you. In fact, you are laying the foundations for huge emotional damage by having a sexual relationship with her.

Tell her that you’ll always be there as her nephew and friend but that you must put distance between you for now.

You both need some help so contact The Mix (themix.org.uk, 0808 808 4994), who are there for under-25s, whatever the problem.

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